My wife is gay

She was going to counseling. So-called "signs" like how your spouse talks, walks, dresses, or looks are not indications of sexual orientation. When a partner suddenly declares him or herself as gay or bisexual, there is loss of the relationship, of the story of your lives. I am gay and have been in a heterosexual marriage for 57 years. You obviously care for her a lot and she for you. Here's how to cope. You have just learned life-changing information.

Learning that a spouse is gay can be confusing and devastating. Unless your spouse shares their sexual orientation with you, there is no way to know for sure if they are gay or queer. We have two children and two grandchildren. We have two children and two grandchildren.

gay - hi! i’m you, but it’s my husband who’s gay. i tried extremely hard to have a platonic marriage. this is just MY experience, but, once other relationships start to happen and once they realize that you’re going to stay despite having this bombshell dropped on you.. if your spouse is anything like mine, they continue to take advantage of the situation in other ways.

So-called "signs" like how your spouse talks, walks, dresses, or looks are not indications of sexual orientation. We have explored options: my wife is gay on with the ruse; rewrite the terms of your marriage, or get a divorce. We have explored options: keep on with the ruse; rewrite the terms of your marriage, or get a divorce. My immediate concern is that you take care of yourself. Nor are sexual preferences, including oral and anal sex.

Nor are sexual preferences, including oral and anal sex. I have offered to help in whatever way I can. I knew she was struggling with several issues: chronic back pain, weight gain, and high blood pressure. I am so confused. She still says she loves me. Here's how to cope. I believe that it is because the gay person, whether conscious of it or not, was not focused on sexual attraction so they chose a spouse who they connected with deeply in other ways — goals, values, and dreams.

Married couples where one spouse is gay often have very strong relationships with each other outside of sex, and sometimes even including sex. Resources for students and psychologists to gain a better understanding of issues that may affect the straight spouse when a wife or husband comes out as lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender.

We were truly best friends — or so I thought — and so she said. Last week my wife of 27 years told me she was a lesbian, is having an affair and is leaving. Unless your spouse shares their sexual orientation with you, there is no way to know for sure if they are gay or queer. "I knew of no one. My situation is not usual but it is more common that you would think.

I am angry about the affair and betrayal. We had great intimacy. Many still refer to their ex-spouse as their best friend. "I knew of no one. You and your wife do need to start a conversation together, but I don’t think you need to speculate about her sexual orientation in order to get to the heart of your issues. When a partner suddenly declares him or herself as gay or bisexual, there is loss of the relationship, of the story of your lives.

I never thought there would be anything but us. The societal assumption is that an ex-husband or ex-wife is someone to be despised, or at best, tolerated. My situation is not usual but it is more common that you would think. We have worked through the initial steps of suspicion, discussion, and confirmation that your wife is gay.

You both need time to think and reflect before any major decisions are made. We loved each other in the truest marital sense — not just the sex. Everyone — our gay friends, straight friends, her coworkers who know and my coworkers who know — all believe she is a lesbian. We have worked through the initial steps of suspicion, discussion, and confirmation that your wife is gay.

I am gay and have been in a heterosexual marriage for 57 years.